Not Good Enough

ok! We all know it's a Love war going on,, Some men say it's a lack of good women and the women say it's a lack of good men,, Is there there really a short coming of good individuals who are willing to submit and love one another? well from speaking to different men and women it's seems to me that ,, those who has been hurt by that one person they truly loved caused them to a lack of trust, afraid to love, to be fully open, so a wall was put up to guard them from having to experience that pain. well some people do guard there hearts but some don't. Many people take chances on love because love is what they want. But at times we are taking chances with the wrong people. further we submit ourselves to those who are not willing to give in return not talking about materialistic things. Love yourselves to know when it's time to let go, when it's time to submit and when it's time to walk away. All love isn't good love. We all have expectations and standards. You know what you want and need from someone. So if you know you want a man who is willing to work and be successful. Than why settle for a man who doesn't want nothing good for himself. If he don't want nothing good for himself what in the hell makes you think he gonna want and provide the goods for you? Men if you want a woman who will support you and respect you. Than don't go after a women who thinks she is better than you and is always willing to want more than what you can give. she's not going to respect you as a man. My point is we keep lowering our standards for others,, when your standards are tangible and realistic don't lower them for nobody. Learn to love yourselves before you can love somebody else. If you know you deserve the best than give yourself the best dont cut yourself short than your not going to be happy and everyone deserves to be happy, life is to short not to be..

Making It Happend

Majority of us already know what we want out of life, know what type of life we want to live and now what type man or women we want in out lives. It's seems funny to me that we know what we want but allow what we dont need stand in our way,, why do we waste time trying welcoming the unnecessary rather pushing for or grasping the necessary? It takes hard work and dedication to accomplish all the good things. but is so easy to come by all the BS we dont need and want. We don't have to put in the effort to grasp that because it's already there. The main Idea is to avoid it. People say shit always happens and it does but we always have to keep moving pressing forward.

Nightline Face-Off Black women

Is our standards too high are is are picking to slim?

Recently on the O and other talk shows gave us an overview the percentage of Single Black women. It was said that 70% of African American Women are single and that it is 1.8 million more black women than their are black men. Can this be the reason why some of the women can't find a good black man, or is it the fact that theres just a few good men out there and and/or is it a problem within us women. Ladies do you find yourselves lowering your standards because you feel like your obligated to? so that you can have the chance to find someone .watching a few of the youtubevideos of single black women were very interesting. Some of the business women whom were successful expect to find men who made double there salary and had a perfect pictured painted for the type of men that they were looking for,, so if your successful does your man need to make more money than you? or would you settle if he had average job and treated you like a queen? Sometimes finding someone is hard. majority of the women know what they want in a man but no one is perfect he is going to some type of flaw some were. willingness and commitment help develop a great relationship. It's good to love and to have someone who will appreciate you and fully understand you. sometimes it takes time for you to grow. Sometimes ladies we fall impatient and we just settle, not good. You should always have standards but It's not good to set standards that you cant meet, you cant expect a man to love you unconditionally especially when your love is not unconditional and it's just sometimes when he buys and gives you what you want. you get out of a relationship or friendship what you put in it. If you apply great things your gonna get great things, I'm not a relationship expert I just speaking from experience. it takes two people to love.. even though there are more black women than men. there are good men out there it might be a slim chance that we all might not find Mr right but I advise some women to step up there game and keep a good man when you see one. because what you don't want another women would have.

Hendering Yourself,,,,

sad to say but working within the community, I have came across so many individuals who blame society and others for there problems. There are so many opportunities that you can take a full advantage of. We all make choices in are lives, sometimes there wrong choices and right choices, but growing up we followed the rules of those who have raised us but as adults you are fully capable of making decisions for yourself. You know you commit certain crimes it's going to make it harder for you to be able to get a job, why do so but it's not the end of the road. I know few Men who have bad background histories and still made it all on top. Its all about your mind state and how you think about things. If you have no insight on moving up in the world most likely your going to be at a stand still. Majority of the people to day have their priorities twisted. so focused on the unnecessary than the necessary. now days it's necessary for you to have materialistic things that have no true value. not saying its not good to want materialistic things but sometimes it's some peoples main focus. too some of the ladies, It said to hear some women talk about other women when you all have nothing going for yourselves. why knock another women hustle especially when she is on her grind to be at her best. Somethings in life ladies you got to let go. some of us don't have time to sit around and keep track of how many baby daddies we got, or who sleeping with whose man. Some of us women is trying to build a foundation for our children, establish a business, work, or go to school. please stop abusing the welfare system if you don't need it, get ya ll lazy asses up and work. If Women can pull together and stop trying to hate so much we would be some powerful creatures. But I give credit to those women who are stepping there game up, trying to be about something. Ladies if you stop letting Jealousy control your emotions and thoughts you will be alright,, get that together,, Live through your mistake let them help you develop into a better individual, enjoy life and love always.